THE POWER OF "INSTEAD"

A common dilemma often seen in my counseling office is one of people truly wanting to change but feeling stuck in their efforts. Perhaps it's negative patterns which keep cropping up in relationships; possibly it's a New Year's Resolution to stop eating all that bad stuff and start exercising! Whatever the transformation desired, you may rest assured it all starts in our heads. Getting connected to new people, working on a new body or changing an old habit is more a matter of what we tell ourselves.

You might be surprised that desire, motivation, and determination seem inadequate and new knowledge is not enough. How long have I known I need to eat differently? How many arguments and "train wrecks" do we go through, knowing we need to break off a relationship? A bad habit could lead to early death, but it still seems to possess our lifestyle. People often recognize a need to have a healthier and better self-esteem, yet seem trapped in a never-ending cycle of put-downs and hurt.

We must first take charge of our thoughts in order to change ourselves. And, not surprisingly, God is here to help. Look at the following list and identify what self-limiting statements you make that can be changed with God's Power of Instead.

If we say: "It's impossible," God says instead: "All things are possible."
If we say: "I'm too tired," God says instead: "I will give you rest."
If we say: "Nobody really loves me, God says instead: "I love you."
If we say: "I can't go on," God says instead: "My grace is sufficent."
If we say: "I can't figure things out," God says instead: "I will direct your steps."
If we say: "I can't do it," God says instead: "You can do all things."
If we say: "I'm not able," God says instead: "I am able."
If we say: "It's not worth it," God says instead: "It will be worth it."
If we say: "I can't forgive myself," God says instead: "I forgive you."
If we say: "I can't manage," God says instead: "I will supply all your needs."
If we say: "I'm afraid," God says instead, "I have not given you a spirit of fear."
If we say: "I'm always worried & frustrated," God says instead: "Cast all your cares on me."
If we say: "I don't have enough faith," God says instead, "I've given everyone a measure of faith."
If we say: "I'm not smart enough," God says instead, "I give you wisdom."
If we say: "I feel all alone," God says instead: "I will never leave you or forsake you."

As you begin to "re-think" your life, memorizing God's answers instead of incorrect assumptions, you'll start to enjoy the freedom which comes from seeing new directions in your life.

Join me next time when I'll talk about using the bridge of instead in taking action.

(Note - contact me if you'd like the scripture references) Barbra